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Birthdays, Pea Soup, Thai Crabcakes, Chocolate Fudge Cake and the Unthought Known

I’ve had two patients this week who’ve been bowled over by realising something they already knew. It’s funny in therapy and analysis that you rarely have huge epiphanies that involve things you’ve never thought about before. All those recovered memory … Continue reading

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“My new wife hasn’t cured me of my grief, loss and depression. Shall I leave her?” Psychotherapeutic advice for real change.

I hardly know where to start as I’m so mixed up and unsettled. Six years ago I married for the second time, after four years alone, which were spent searching desperately for Mrs Right. In 2008, by some good fortune, … Continue reading

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“I’m a gay man looking for someone I both like and fancy. Why is it so difficult?”

I’m a single man in my mid-30s. I was something of a monogamist throughout my 20s with only three relationships by 30. I’ve now been single for six years. I’ve had one relationship that I felt very happy in, but … Continue reading

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“I hate my needy girlfriend but I can’t leave her. Help.” Proper Advice for Real Change.

I am a 30-year-old man in a professional job. My career is going well, but the one thing in my life I am not enjoying is my relationship. My girlfriend, 25, has a beautiful five-year-old daughter, who I adore, and … Continue reading

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“I followed a pop star to his hotel when I was 15 and he abused me. I’m still angry.” Proper Advice for Real Change

“Recent investigations into Jimmy Savile and others make me want to tell you about what happened 38 years ago. At 15 I was ‘in love’ with a member of a glam-rock band. I’d never had a boyfriend but collected pictures … Continue reading

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“Men don’t notice me. What am I doing wrong?” Proper Advice for Real Change

“I’m writing in hope that you can offer some clarity. I’m 32 and soon my mum (my only family) will pass away after a long illness. This in itself is incredibly distressing, yet the reason I write is selfish and … Continue reading

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“My new boyfriend prefers porn stars who don’t look like me to real sex with me.” Real Advice for Lasting Change

“I have been dating my boyfriend for almost seven months. We have had our ups and many, many downs, but we are still working on our relationship — physically and emotionally. Recently, I’ve become aware that my boyfriend has been … Continue reading

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