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Everything cake, Hysterectomy, Being a Therapist doesn’t mean I’m happy, Sorrentino

I was having dinner with a friend at Satura in Lucca (boring restaurant with lots of deep fried stuff) and telling her how weird it is to be having a hysterectomy (soon) and how sad. Only a couple of years … Continue reading

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“My new wife hasn’t cured me of my grief, loss and depression. Shall I leave her?” Psychotherapeutic advice for real change.

I hardly know where to start as I’m so mixed up and unsettled. Six years ago I married for the second time, after four years alone, which were spent searching desperately for Mrs Right. In 2008, by some good fortune, … Continue reading

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“I think my partner is unfaithful and I keep digging. Am I right?” Advice for Real Change – No quick fixes (sorry)

“My girlfriend and I (both 26) have been together in a long-distance relationship for eight years. It was a dream until she became a successful chartered accountant when she got a job, while I was doing not so well academically. … Continue reading

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“How do I banish all negative or morally dubious thoughts, please?” Thoughtful Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective.

“I am a 34-year-old woman who (probably like many others) lies awake from 2 or 3am most nights. There is a calm but doggedly persistent stream of thoughts, images and scenarios running on a loop in my mind. I think … Continue reading

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“I’m impotent and my wife’s having an e-affair with a martial arts expert.” Real Advice for Lasting Change.

“One night about six years ago, on my way home I was assaulted by a drunken female and punched in my groin area. The hospital told me that I wouldn’t be able to father any more children. I found it … Continue reading

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“I left my horrid husband after 28 years, but now he’s seeing my ex-best friend and I’m mad with rage.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective. No Glib Life Tips (I promise).

“After a difficult 28-year marriage (which produced four fantastic children), I asked my husband for a separation. He’d been moody and withdrawn for many years — very rude to and about people, especially if they were close to me. He … Continue reading

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“My husband is having a text affair. Now what?” Proper Advice for Real Change – no glib life tips.

I’m 42, married with two boys (10 and 12) and to the outside world I have a great life. But my marriage has not been easy – my husband has huge insecurities and is threatened by my doing anything that … Continue reading

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“My husband told me to have sex with other men. Now I’m in love with one of them. And suicidal.” Thoughtful advice from a psychoanalytic viewpoint. No glib life tips.

“From the outside I look like the lady with everything. And I suppose I am, really. I have a wonderful husband of nearly 15 years, whom I love deeply and share an amazing life with. I met my husband when … Continue reading

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“My boyfriend spends more money on his wife than he does on me. Upbeat advice, please.” No glib life tips here.

“I’m 55, single and have been involved with a married man for more than five years. The same old story. My life and relationships haven’t been too good. At 22, the love of my life cheated on me. At 25, … Continue reading

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“My husband says I don’t turn him on any more. I can’t get over it.” Thoughtful Advice for Real Change

My husband, 64, and I have been together for 34 years. We love each other, laugh a lot and enjoy the same interests. He is my dearest friend — but, sadly, no longer my lover. I asked him why we … Continue reading

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