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“I think my partner is unfaithful and I keep digging. Am I right?” Advice for Real Change – No quick fixes (sorry)

“My girlfriend and I (both 26) have been together in a long-distance relationship for eight years. It was a dream until she became a successful chartered accountant when she got a job, while I was doing not so well academically. … Continue reading

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“My husband is having a text affair. Now what?” Proper Advice for Real Change – no glib life tips.

I’m 42, married with two boys (10 and 12) and to the outside world I have a great life. But my marriage has not been easy – my husband has huge insecurities and is threatened by my doing anything that … Continue reading

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“My husband told me to have sex with other men. Now I’m in love with one of them. And suicidal.” Thoughtful advice from a psychoanalytic viewpoint. No glib life tips.

“From the outside I look like the lady with everything. And I suppose I am, really. I have a wonderful husband of nearly 15 years, whom I love deeply and share an amazing life with. I met my husband when … Continue reading

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“My boyfriend spends more money on his wife than he does on me. Upbeat advice, please.” No glib life tips here.

“I’m 55, single and have been involved with a married man for more than five years. The same old story. My life and relationships haven’t been too good. At 22, the love of my life cheated on me. At 25, … Continue reading

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“Shall I leave my wife and daughter for my girlfriend?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

“My wife and I are in our early 30s  –  married for more than nine years with a little girl of two. Over the past two years, I have realised that we have grown apart  –  both mentally and physically  … Continue reading

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“I only fancy unobtainable men – my friends’ boyfriends.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective

I find myself locked in self-destructive patterns of behaviour; I only ever fancy men who are unobtainable. I hate to admit this, but I often find my friends’ partners attractive, although I would never dream of acting on that attraction. … Continue reading

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“I love my boyfriend but am attracted to someone else. Is there something inherently wrong with me?” Proper Advice From a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I am a 25-year-old postgraduate student, about to finish my PhD in the summer. I have got myself a job in the U.S. which I’m very excited about and am looking forward to starting there in August. I have a … Continue reading

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