Tag Archives: emotional abuse

“My new boyfriend prefers porn stars who don’t look like me to real sex with me.” Real Advice for Lasting Change

“I have been dating my boyfriend for almost seven months. We have had our ups and many, many downs, but we are still working on our relationship — physically and emotionally. Recently, I’ve become aware that my boyfriend has been … Continue reading

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“My lover only wants sex. I want a relationship. Oh, and I was sexually abused as a child…” Thoughtful Advice for Lasting Change

“At 50, I’ve been single for 11 years after a very abusive marriage. When I finally managed to get rid of my husband I decided to concentrate on my ten-year-old and one-year-old. During that time I saw the occasional man, … Continue reading

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“My husband is having a text affair. Now what?” Proper Advice for Real Change – no glib life tips.

I’m 42, married with two boys (10 and 12) and to the outside world I have a great life. But my marriage has not been easy – my husband has huge insecurities and is threatened by my doing anything that … Continue reading

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“My dad calls my mum a waste of space and doesn’t like me since I’ve grown up [into a woman]. Is it my fault?” Proper Advice for Real Change

“I don’t know whether it is my fault that my father doesn’t seem to respect or like me. We were close when I was a child (I’m 23 now) and I drifted away from him during adolescence. I cannot put … Continue reading

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“My stepfather abused me 45 years ago. Now I need resolution.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective

I am 57 and was molested by my stepfather when I was 13. When my mum and nan went out on a Friday night, he would pull me to him from behind and put his hand inside my bra. I asked … Continue reading

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“My abusive husband says he’ll kill himself if I leave.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

At 22, I married a dreadful man and got out after four years. Then I fell in love with a good man for two years and had a nervous breakdown when we split. Then (off work), I met the elder … Continue reading

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“I’m impotent with my cruel wife but potent with her accepting sister. What should I do?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

My life is such a mess. I’ve been married many years. My wife had two girls by another man before we met and I look on them and their children as my daughters and grand-daughters. But for many years my … Continue reading

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