Category Archives: psychoanalysis

The Upside of a Very Anxious Time

“Everybody’s anxious,” my friend messaged. “Everybody’s anxious.” It sounds true, I know. But it isn’t true. At least five of my hyper-anxious psychotherapy patients have been miraculously calmed by the whole planet acting out their inner drama on their behalf.  … Continue reading

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Sorting People on the Basis of Their Genitalia, Legal Definitions of Madness, Painting the Kitchen, Coconut Milk Panna Cotta and Almond Fruit Tart

    I drove to Florence to meet an old friend and his daughter. They had come in this kind of hellish way to spend two days sightseeing in the blistering heat with a billion other tourists. Even Florence is … Continue reading

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Birthdays, Pea Soup, Thai Crabcakes, Chocolate Fudge Cake and the Unthought Known

I’ve had two patients this week who’ve been bowled over by realising something they already knew. It’s funny in therapy and analysis that you rarely have huge epiphanies that involve things you’ve never thought about before. All those recovered memory … Continue reading

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Sue Perkins/Marilyn Monroe, Almond Cake with Cherries, Chicken in Pomegranate Molasses, Three Sisters, the Freedom not to Look Pretty (ffs)

Sue Perkins/Marilyn Monroe, Almond Cake with Cherries, Chicken in Pomegranate Molasses, Three Sisters, the Freedom not to Look Pretty (ffs) So I was getting ready to go to a work lunch last week and I looked in the mirror. I … Continue reading

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Baryshnikov, Russian Poems, тоска, Pretty Salads and Dim Sum

  Baryshnikov, Russian Poems, тоска, Pretty Salads and Dim Sum   I went to see Baryshnikov reading Brodsky at the Apollo the other day. Completely sold out and packed full of Russians. Misha, whose beauty has in no way been … Continue reading

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Chicken Pastilla, Cherry and Pistachio cake, People who think Everyone Fancies them and Tinder’s men called Glen

Chicken Pastilla, Cherry and Pistachio cake, People who think Everyone Fancies them and Tinder’s men called Glen I hadn’t realised when I posted my last thingy that it was so confessional, or that I was saying anything difficult. I’ve always … Continue reading

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Coming Home, the Mont Blanc Tunnel, Steak, Chips and Asparagus

Coming Home, the Mont Blanc Tunnel, Steak, Chips and Asparagus   It’s a really, really long way from London to Lucca. Got in the car with son, two dogs, a lot of stuff, left at 6.30am and got halfway, Rochefort … Continue reading

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David Bowie, Cats, Everything Salad and a Patient who Hides

Slightly lurid picture of Everything Salad there, but the only one I’ve got. Wait. Has it got some weird filter on it? Possibly.  So, I was watching a picture of David Bowie flash up on the TV yesterday, all bony … Continue reading

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Dealing with trauma from online viewing, Chekhov’s Black Monk and Azerbaijano-Armenian (I know, I know) lamb meatballs.

Dealing with trauma from online viewing, Chekhov’s Black Monk and Azerbaijano-Armenian (I know, I know) lamb meatballs. The Black Monk! I went to the Pushkin House to watch a play, filmed in Moscow, based on the Chekhov short story. There … Continue reading

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“My new wife hasn’t cured me of my grief, loss and depression. Shall I leave her?” Psychotherapeutic advice for real change.

I hardly know where to start as I’m so mixed up and unsettled. Six years ago I married for the second time, after four years alone, which were spent searching desperately for Mrs Right. In 2008, by some good fortune, … Continue reading

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