Monthly Archives: June 2014

“My abusive husband says he’ll kill himself if I leave.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

At 22, I married a dreadful man and got out after four years. Then I fell in love with a good man for two years and had a nervous breakdown when we split. Then (off work), I met the elder … Continue reading

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“I want to be a wife but nobody wants to marry me.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I’m 28. I’m a nice person. All I have ever dreamed of is being married. I know I would make the perfect wife. I’m not jealous, I’m not a pushover, yet I would devote myself to making sure my husband … Continue reading

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“I only fancy unobtainable men – my friends’ boyfriends.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective

I find myself locked in self-destructive patterns of behaviour; I only ever fancy men who are unobtainable. I hate to admit this, but I often find my friends’ partners attractive, although I would never dream of acting on that attraction. … Continue reading

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“I am consumed with a fear of my parents dying. I know it’s not healthy.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective

My problem is a sudden and acute bout of separation anxiety that I go through every day. I might be having a good time with my parents, but in the middle of it I will suddenly think about their death. The idea of … Continue reading

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“My husband won’t have sex with me even when I beg.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective

I’m 41 and have been with my partner for 24 years. Though we have two children, he’s never had a high sex drive — once a week when we were courting, and a couple of times a month in the … Continue reading

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