Monthly Archives: April 2014

“I miss my ex but I didn’t like him while I was with him.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I’m 30 and can’t get over my break-up with my fiancé. Together for five years, engaged for two, we split up at the beginning of last year. I initiated the end as our relationship was making both of us unhappy. … Continue reading

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A letter full of child abuse, violence and mental breakdown in which the question is; “Should I move to America to be with my boyfriend?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

Before I started university a shocking revelation about child abuse in the family came to light. It rocked me to my core, and my bipolar stepdad had a rather extreme reaction: self-harming and being violent, as he felt responsible.  I … Continue reading

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“I’m impotent with my cruel wife but potent with her accepting sister. What should I do?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

My life is such a mess. I’ve been married many years. My wife had two girls by another man before we met and I look on them and their children as my daughters and grand-daughters. But for many years my … Continue reading

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“My controlling mum hated the girlfriend I loved, so I left her. I am 40.”

I am a 40-year-old man. I work full time and live at home with my mother. I moved out for a while, but a couple of years ago I changed jobs and took a big pay cut, so moved back … Continue reading

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“My husband is addicted to gay porn and meets men in saunas. Is he gay?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I am a 38-year-old woman, married for three years, with three children under the age of four. Six weeks ago I discovered that my husband has been chatting to men online via Gaydar and other similar sites, and emailing one … Continue reading

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“My husband bullies our adopted son. I am suicidal. Should I leave?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

As I approach my 50th birthday, I’ve come to a crossroads — and I am pretty sure I am suffering from depression. I have not mentioned it to my GP— although I am having tests for unexplained stomach discomfort — … Continue reading

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“I’m an ex-pat in Spain being bullied by my aggressive Brit neighbour. Shall I murder him?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I live in Spain, and my problem comes from people who have holiday homes here and think they own the place, ignoring and upsetting the permanent residents here (like me). There is a particularly obnoxious army officer who drops into … Continue reading

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