Monthly Archives: March 2014

“I am terrified of climate change, civil war, global crisis. The fear is overwhelming my life.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I am struggling to cope under the weight of worry. I’m convinced the global economic crisis is going to cause such unrest that our lives will be changed beyond my imagination. I’m terrified that something like civil war will break … Continue reading

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“I found my father’s child porn 30 years ago. Now I’m overwhelmed with fear that he is a paedophile.”

I’ve wanted to write for a long time but recently my problem has become overwhelming. When I was nine, I discovered explicit child pornography magazines in my father’s bedroom. I was doing my pre-Christmas search for presents and can still … Continue reading

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A link to my Life of the Mind column in this month’s Prospect

Melting a box of chocolates onto a creamy dessert. What would Freud say?   http://www.prospectmagazine.co.uk/magazine/life-of-the-mind-beneath-the-surface/#.UzVAP14ng6E  

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“I’m gay and in love with my ‘heteroflexible’ best friend. Is he interested?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I’m a gay man who recently realised I was in love with my straight best friend. I didn’t think anything would come of it and so I tried to get over him. However he recently described himself as “heteroflexible” to … Continue reading

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“My boyfriend won’t leave his ex. Should I end it?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

I’ve been seeing a guy for about a month and we have a great time together. But he has a girlfriend he’s been with for two months. He keeps saying he’ll leave her for me and that he just needs … Continue reading

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“My girlfriend dumped me for another boy at school. How do I get over it?” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

This problem first appeared in the Observer. I’m 15 years old and last June I started dating a girl at my school. We were together until January, when she dumped me. During the summer the relationship did not mean much … Continue reading

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“I’m 20, suicidal and nothing anybody can do will help me.” Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

This problem appeared first in the Daily Mail. I don’t usually write emails like this to anyone. Today is different. Today, I feel very low. Very few of my friends know what I go through each day. I’m 20, at … Continue reading

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“How can I tell if he’s really interested in me?” Proper Advice from Psychoanalytic viewpoint

The problem is taken from the Observer this time. I had feelings for a guy I was friends with at university, but it never developed into a relationship. I wasn’t sure how he felt about me, but I couldn’t seem to let … Continue reading

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“I’m a 40 year old virgin. Is there still hope?” – Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Viewpoint

Proper Advice from a Psychoanalytic Perspective I’m not going to tell anyone to take up a hobby, embrace their freedom or go for couple’s counseling. Treating the symptoms of a problem is not going to cure it. I’m male, in … Continue reading

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Proper Advice – Your life and relationship problems answered from a psychoanalytic viewpoint

Advice Informed By Psychoanalytic Thinking   People who seek advice are stuck and they will never get unstuck unless they can understand why they are stuck. Most newspaper and magazine advice columns are written by thoughtful and intelligent women with … Continue reading

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